Not My Monkey – By Arnie Wohlgemut
The phrase “Not My Circus, Not My Monkey” is apparently a Polish indium. I don’t know if they have a circus or monkey problem. I’ll have to look into that.
So, what does this phrase mean?
Here’s what I learned. Our responses to unpleasant circumstances can, in some cases, put the monkey on our back.
Let me give you an example. There have been times in my life where I felt unjustly accused of something. I found myself trying really hard to prove that I was not that type of person. Ever happen to you? It seemed the more I tried to prove my side of things, the worse it got.
It took a while but I did eventually realize I just put their monkey on my back! I was adapting what others thought and said about me as my reality. Very foolish. Someone’s opinion of you does not have to become your reality.
“If you fuel your journey on the opinions of others you are going to run out of gas.” Dr. Steve Maraboli
We as leaders walk a fine line between being responsible to others and being responsible for others. Sometimes the lines get blurred.
Yes, dealing with people can be messy. They have baggage and it should remain theirs. I agree that we should help them be successful by removing barriers. But not solve their issues for them.
Don’t carry other people’s monkey’s on your back…