Please Save Me From ….

Please Save Me From….     By Arnie Wohlgemut

You fill in the dots.  We all have things in life we dread (and avoid): cleaning the house, the morning commute; budget meetings; impromptu meetings with the boss.  You name it.

I DREAD annual performance review time.  As important as they are – and I stand on this – I just don’t like doing them.  I thought of them as part of the job and just dug in.

But I’ve learned that I don’t have to operate in that “dread space”.  Here’s what I learned:
1. Dread is the seed of fear.  Dread consumes hope.  Don’t kid yourself.  Your mind is a powerful influencer and dread can set us up for a very bad day.  Instead of hoping for a good drive home or a productive meeting, dread sets us up for a much worse experience.

2. Dread is simply expecting to have an unpleasant experience.  If we have prepared ourselves for that meeting, we should have self confidence that it will be successful.  If your meeting plan didn’t work out: get a new plan!

3. Dread is passive.  It doesn’t make things better, make it easier or even make it go away; it just sets you up for the fall.  Dread leads to real fear and will stall the progress your team has made.

4. Dread can control you.  Don’t let it.  When you feel dread coming on, remind yourself you know the pattern and dread doesn’t change a thing.

5. Anti-dread action.  If you are having a bad day, take responsibility.  You have control over your attitude.  Make your mind up that you’re not going to dread anything.

The good news?  You can choose not to be controlled by dread.  But it will take courage.  You can’t take the easy way out. 

Confront your personal gaps.  Your staff count on you.  Be bold.  Be the leader you can be!